courage, kindness, softness, love and connection

Thinking back it seems to me that every time I have acted in violence, anger, fear, or coldness I have lost something of importance to me.
 It could be honor, integrity, or relationship.
 The last to time it has been relationships. The last time I lost a life
  No matter how much bullshit I shovel or good I do for the rest of my life there will be a hole in my sense of me...
  I advise all to reject fear and one-up-manship. Every time you vilify a whole group or even a person you tear a little hole in the fabric of society.
  Think clearly and with courage and honor and integrity before you say or do anything cruel or dismissive. You yours and all of us collectively lose when we do such things
 

Empathy

How do we empathize with the "other"
Those who we disagree with or fear?
 What happens when we misjudge and either attack a good person or mistake evil for a miscommunication?
 

nice

A long story on whether being nice pays off for men in the world on the BBC yesterday
 The most striking thing I noticed was the scientist saying that there is an assumption in many humans that we are all evil assholes so anyone who is nice is therefore weak.
This to me is to me is a sad and fearful belief which is actually false and through constant repetition soon becomes a social reality.
So my conclusion is that us good folks need to do is to battle against the evils of  those who worship bluster and violence and do the battle of good vs evil with strength and kindness
 

justice,equaility, morality

A very complex and difficult subject this thing of fairness and justice.
 I sense in many of my friends a judgment full of fear and resentment
My young children often feel resentment of the others enjoyment and their childish solution to this problem is often to take the joy or resource away from the other, the same method many adults have  For example . Some people get free college, others don't. The immature solution based on the a priori idea of not enough is to take free school (donated or paid by others or society) away from those who have it.
Interestingly this does not translate to inherited or stolen wealth....
 

Doing one's best the love of excellence is a rare and beautiful thing  I remember as a young man thinking that doing ones best was putting forth full effort in whatever one was doing.
What happens if one has never been challenged in their lives?
It seems that man do not know what their best is.. I am trying to figure how one hits a moving target
As one tries hard ones best becomes better and better as one believes that they are trying their best their best can be less and less